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St. Martin’s Press
October 15, 2019
The Art of Reading Minds isn’t actually about reading minds. It’s about observing other people’s body language closely to notice their “tells.” Author Henrik Fexeus offers a variety of ways to do this—though, surprisingly, since a big part of reading others is building a rapport with them first, he spends almost the entire first half of the book discussing ways to get people to feel connected to you, to see you like you’ve always been good buddies. Usually this involves mimicking their behavior in some way. For example, matching their energy level, using their favorite buzzwords, or finding a way to agree with them (“I’d think the same thing if I were you!”).
But once the other person feels camaraderie with you, the real mind reading begins. Collect bits and pieces of info by observing gestures, posture, eye movements, voice changes, physical contact, and, of course, language. While one piece of information can’t tell you everything you need to know about the person, taken together can you get a pretty good idea if someone is lying to you, flirting with you, hiding a secret, etc.
Fexeus ends with, what can only be described as, party tricks. He teaches you how to read people’s subtle movements, so that you can eventually tell who that person is thinking about, who she loves, who he dislikes, etc., just by asking a few questions and watching for the physical clues that follow. It’s pretty cool stuff.
It took me a bit to get through this book, but it was still very interesting and informative. I sure would love to see the TED talk version, though. Just sayin. 🙂
Thank you Net Galley and St. Martin’s Press for the ARC!