Listen to Your Mother (★★★★★)

Listen to Your Mother Imig

Listen to Your Mother is composed of a huge selection of short essays edited by Ann Imig and written by various women (and a few men) in a variety of relationships and life circumstances. Authors are daughters, wives, widowers, husbands, gay, straight, trans, single, and divorced–with children both biological and adopted (or even none at all). Honestly, the variety of perspective in this book is actually pretty impressive.

And this is serious motherhood here. Sure, there are a few lighthearted, aiming-to-be-funny essays, but these were actually the weakest of the bunch–and my least favorite. No, most of these stories are written from a place of honest-to-God struggle and pain, with a genuine longing to understand and improve and cope and love.

Some of my favorites:

A Year by the Lake by Jenny Fiore:  “More than halfway into the deployment, Elizabeth and I are at a local gym for toddler playtime. She hates leaving, and I know it will end in a theatrical mess, but I go anyway. See, more than she does, I need the gym, the zoo, the petting farm. I need the pet store, the playground, the pool. I need these in order to keep my child happy enough, occupied enough to not break me.”

Mo’ Betta Mama by Tasneem Grace Tewogbola:  “Accept all situations, she said. Recognize the struggle. Slide into the valley, if you must. Moan, stew, thrash, rage, if you need. But, soon, summon the Most High, the Creator, the One, Big Mama.”

Mother:  A Multiplication Lesson by Dana Maya:  “Because mothering is a difficult math problem, though, there is not only more in the sum, but also less. So many parts of our lives:  gone. We lose what we need (sleep), what we crave (choice, solitude). We lose relationships and vanities, routines, and sanity. And we see, as the losses slough off of us, slow, then fast, what is now as plain as our own skin:  there are a great many losses to come. When we flower, then we see.”

By the time I finished Listen to Your Mother, I actually felt a bit less alone. (I’m a mother of three kids, and, truth be told, this past year has been a bit rough for all of us.) I think sometimes it helps to be reminded of how many brave, resilient, intelligent, and thoughtful women (and men) are out there. It’s comforting to recognize that the world is full of good people who, though not perfect, are trying to make good decisions and live good lives. So even though this book ended up being much more serious than I expected, it really resonated with me and I enjoyed reading it.

2 thoughts

  1. What a genuine and sincere review. Thanks for the kind words. The LTYM anthology is a gift to anyone who reads it, because it fosters community and our challenges feel lighter, when shared with many. Thank you.


    1. Thank you, alexandra! I appreciate your comment, and I completely agree. Also, this was my first time learning about the LTYM performances, and I find the concept fascinating. You guys are definitely on my radar now. I’m so glad you decided to publish this collection of stories!


Let's talk about it! Leave a comment below.

Fill in your details below or click an icon to log in: Logo

You are commenting using your account. Log Out /  Change )

Google photo

You are commenting using your Google account. Log Out /  Change )

Twitter picture

You are commenting using your Twitter account. Log Out /  Change )

Facebook photo

You are commenting using your Facebook account. Log Out /  Change )

Connecting to %s