I read This Is Ridiculous, This Is Amazing, by Jason Good, while strapped to The Pump, with my 4-year old and 2-year old wailing on each other in the other room and my 3-month old screaming from his bouncy seat right next to me…and I have to say that this book made me feel so, so much better about life.
I don’t consider myself someone who readily laughs out loud at books (especially at this point in my uber-stressed life), but this book had me honest-to-god, from-the-belly laughing. Jason Good is funny. And you’re going to have to be a parent (probably of multiple kids) to understand just how funny he is. If you’ve never been sleep-deprived to the point of weeping for no reason or experiencing mild hallucinations or asking yourself questions like, “Do I have pants on?” (I’m being serious), this book simply won’t resonate with you as it should.
But if you have, then you are going to want to read This Is Ridiculous This Is Amazing. These lists cover so many of the impossibly trying situations that parents deal with, yet Good presents them in a way that somehow makes all the frustration and worry and despair okay. He is self-deprecating and honest, but also forgiving and kind–to himself and to all of the parents who are exhausted and trying, who feel that, despite giving everything they have, they are still falling short.
Here are excerpts from some of my favorite lists:
Oh, but the New and Wonderful New Things You’ll Get to Do – Once you have kids, life as you once knew it is over, but you do get to experience new things like…
#01 – Butter a piece of toast while peeing
#11 – Wipe somebody’s nose with your bare hand
#16 – Almost agree to cut up a raisin
#21 – Let someone watch you pee as they stare blankly while eating a Popsicle
Nap Guilt – If you take a nap while your partner is “on duty” you’re going to have to make it up to her. I hate that this is true, but it is.
You Deserve a Break – “Before having a family, taking out the garbage was a chore. Now it’s a thirty-second vacation.” And he’s right! Filling out insurance forms and taking the cat to the vet DO actually feel like an amazing vacation from my children.
Parenting the Firstborn vs. the Second-born
- Food for the firstborn: all homemade in special baby food-processor. For the second-born: crackers.
- Bathing the firstborn: every night in a special bathtub that’s just the right size. The second-born: twice a week; swimming pools count.
- TV rules for the firstborn: two 23-minute episodes of Sesame Street per day. For the second-born: has his own Netflix account.
Thank you, Jason Good, for making me feel okay about myself again. I’m so glad I’m not alone.